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Monday, April 17, 2017

Ashes to ashes, dust to dust...

A week ago we said our final good-byes to our parents. My mother passed away in December and we held her memorial in January. My father died in February and we held his memorial last Sunday, April 9th at 2:00. That same morning at 11:00 my sisters and I and our families spread their ashes up at the location of an old mill town called Wendling where my father grew up (sadly the town no longer exists).
These first few photos are from a wonderful trip we had with them last September (2016). My husband and I and our children took my parents up to Wendling to have a picnic and let my father see the remains of his childhood home one more time. Here he is looking around at the trees and mountains that seem to just call to him.
My father loved being up there again and here he is looking into the old Mill Creek where he once played. I am so thankful that we did this because sadly within three months my mother passed away and two months later my father passed.
 Here's a picture of Daddy in the 1970s up near the old covered bridge at Wendling.

At the time of my mother's death we discussed spreading her ashes with my father. She was cremated and we asked him if he would like to go with us up to Wendling to spread her ashes or we could wait until he passed and we could spread their ashes together. He said he wanted to wait until they could be together. We promised Daddy that we would do this and it worked out so great to do it the morning of his memorial.

Wendling was such a very special place to my father and he visited up there many times over his life. He often took us kids when we were little and then when our children were little. This place was special to my mother as well as she came up here with my Daddy when they were dating to have dinner with his family once a week and then of course they came up here often times after they were married.
My son, Hayden, bought my father's old truck, and he carried their ashes up to Wendling. They had one more drive to the country in that old truck.....
...and drove through that old covered bridge one more time.
We weren't quite sure of the exact location to spread their ashes and finally decided on spreading them in the old Mill Creek. We originally had a box of ashes for each of them and I was thinking of all the things that could possibly go wrong as we were spreading them if we had two separate containers. I called the mortuary and asked if they could mix their ashes for us and I was so pleased that they said they could. This relieved a lot of worries for us.
 These waters are very special to our family.
 My brother-in-law, Ralph, read a poem and prayer.
My two sisters and I spread the ashes together. Our brother was unable to attend.
 We opened the box and set them free. Our husbands and children and even my grandson were there to witness the event and to show love and support.
 I picked these hyacinths from our yard and gave one to each person there.
 After we spread the ashes we each said a little something and threw the flowers in the water.
 Needless to say, it was very emotional.
 Even my precious grandson threw a flower. He loved his Great Grandpa Leonard and Great Grammie Shirley.
 It was very somber to see the flowers floating in the ash stained water.
 It was beautiful.
 After we all threw our flowers we sang Amazing Grace.
 It was a very special time. Very meaningful.
Mackenzie at the water's edge.
Grayson, Harrison and Hayden are looking down at the creek as Mackenzie is climbing up and carrying Ridley. Their grandparents meant a lot to them and now this place will become very meningful to them as well. After our little ceremony we all came back up to the truck and had a picnic.
God blessed us with such a pretty morning! Two days prior we had a huge wind/rain storm come through our area with 50 mile an hour winds! We are so thankful that it was not only pleasant, but the sun came out too!
 We set Daddy and Mamma's picture on the table.
 We brought yummy foods to eat, many are some of my Daddy's favorite things he brought to picnics like Vienna Sausages, Lorna Doone cookies, Ritz crackers, Cheez-It's and grapes.
 We also ate crispy bean burritos from Taco Time. Our parents ate there when they were dating, and as we were growing up we had Taco Time almost every single Saturday night. We all love crispy bean burritos, so I bought 21 of them the day before and my husband warmed them in the oven that morning.  He then wrapped them in foil and a towel and placed them in a cooler, which kept them hot! We had a toast to Daddy and Mommy with our burritos and took a selfie! I love our family!
My sisters and our husbands posed on the Mill Creek bridge with a photo of Mom and Dad.
 Now here's many of my parents grandchildren on the bridge. What a blessing!!!
 We had to wrap it up and head to the church. We had such a lovely family time.
 I feel like we gave our parents a wonderful send off.
They were married 60+ years and had a beautiful love story. They both accepted Christ and loved, served and trusted Him their whole lives, so we know that their spirits are in heaven and their bodies are just shells now, but it seems so fitting that their ashes are mixed together and their final resting place is in this very special place.
Their spirits are together forever in heaven and their earthly remains are together forever in the waters of  the old Mill Creek!

"Then shall the dust return to the earth as it was; and the spirit shall return unto God who gave it." Ecclesiastes 12:7


Erin said...

This is so beautiful, Sharon! We should all be so fortunate to have such a send off.

Simply Shelley said...

I cried as I read this year post hun. I loss my daddy in 2015. I spent a whole year with my mom,living at her home after my dad passed. My mom is 85 now, and has a weak heart. It's a very hard thing having to say goodbye, but what peace in knowing they are with God. Your family honored your parents beautifully. Blessings to you all 🌹🌹🌹

Anonymous said...

I did not think your Dad would remain much longer without your Mom. That is such a sweet thing that happens often between couples. Bless you as you now embrace life different but always in the company of their spirits.

Jonna Melvin said...

I've been reading your blog for years and was so sad to read of the passing of both of your parents. This post about their memorial is the sweetest blog post I've ever read!!! ��

I lost my mom last June and my brother just this past February. I was with them both when they passed and reading your posts these past two months has helped me not feel so alone in my loss and sadness.

Take care ��

Anonymous said...

What a beautiful memorial.

Tracy in the UK

Rue said...

This was beautiful, Sharon and very touching. God Bless them and all of you.

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