|I love my Mom and Dad and sisters so very much.|
Today a big chapter of my life is closing and a new (and hopefully wonderful) chapter is opening. This story is about my parents and my sisters and how my sisters and I have been loving and honoring our parents by protecting them and taking care of them.
I have written a few blog posts in which I eluded to some of the issues that have gone on with my parents involving their finances and health, click here and here to read a bit more. Basically, someone who we all trusted took advantage of them, took all of their money and put them in financial peril (in the process they even lost their home, but thankfully a family member bought it and let them stay there). The only money they had to their name was their monthly Social Security. My parents were getting older and not in the best health and my sisters and I knew that we needed to move them to an assisted living facility, but there was no money to do this. We contacted the State and were told that we either had to press charges against the person (I will refer to them as the "person" the remainder of this post) who took their money or wait 5 years until our parents would be eligible for Medicaid. Believe me, we wanted to press charges, but our parents did not, so we limped along and waited. In the beginning it was okay, but the last two years it has gotten more and more difficult.
|Paying bills, buying groceries and picking up prescriptions for my parents.|
After he was gone, I started paying their bills for them and was so upset to learn that the person did not pay our parents bills for three months and instead blew it on himself with things like special coffee, food and restaurants. When he left town and we got control of the money, we were all so shocked and upset to learn that our parent's electricity was a few days away from being turned off! This was the middle of the coldest December our county has had in years! We also found out he had one last hurrah and took out a line of credit in our mother's name and got another $2,000. Unbelievable!
My sisters and I wanted to make sure they had one of us visit at least once a week, so we started a three week rotation. This worked out quite well. We took turns getting their groceries, picking up their prescriptions, taking them meals, cleaning the house and showering our mother. I did this every three weeks for months and sometimes I had a little helper come with me. :)
|Playing checkers with my Dad. Buying funeral preparations for our parents with my sister.|
|Visiting and bringing meals was always sweet.|
|Lovingly taking care of our parents is a blessing.|
|My Daddy being wheeled up to surgery. Could this 86 year old man survive brain surgery?|
|Where my Daddy gets his strength is where I get my strength too.|
|Mamma comforting Daddy after his surgery.|
|Daddy reading the Bible less than 24 hours after emergency brain surgery!|
|Having fun girl time with my Mamma.|
|Reading the Word to Mamma in the morning.|
|Daddy reading the Bible to mama three days after brain surgery.|
|Mom showing her pretty nails to Daddy|
|Spending a little minute with God|
I have so many things to pray about and so many heavy things on my mind. We found out that Medicaid does not start covering their assisted living until June 22nd and we still have to go through the approval process. I am so worried about the approval part of it, what if they don't qualify for some reason? What will we do? For now we have to continuing limping along as we are until the 22nd. That's eleven more days! Kelli will be out of town until June 29th, so Kathi and I need to continue taking turns taking care of Mom. If they get approved we some how need to move Mom over to the new apartment in the assisted living facility. It's not just moving her over there that's so stressful, it's how do we move our parents from this house they have lived in for 52 years in just a few weeks notice. I don't think I can handle it! On top of that, I am so worried for Daddy. Will he completely recover? What do we do if he doesn't? Breathe Sharon, just breathe. God will take care of everything. Just take one day at a time.
|Mamma and Daddy visiting at the nursing home.|
|Still so in love after 59 years!|
|He still remembers how to play tic-tac-toe!|
|We are so thankful he not only survived his surgery, but he's doing so well!|
|What an amazing miracle!|
|With busy times like this you just keep going!|
|Mom and Dad are so happy to see each other.|
|Shopping for the new apartment! They are finally approved!|
There was one stipulation though, Medicaid said our parents had $400.00 too much in their savings account and we needed to spend it that day. They didn't care what we bought as long as it was for my parents. So in the midst of the craziness, I took my mother to Target and we forced ourselves to buy $400.00 worth of stuff! We picked out two darling sets of bedding for their bedrooms and my mom got new jeans, a couple of shirts and perfume! We also bought my Daddy a new computer! I stopped by the living facility and they already had my parent's names on the plaque in front of their new apartment! This is real! This is really happening!!!
|I'm kinda smiling, but oh my gosh, I have got so much work ahead of me in the next 48 hours.|
|Our families working hard moving our parents|
|We did it!|
|Mom and Dad's new home sweet home!|
|We are exhausted!|
|Moving more junk from here to there!|
|Daddy being rescued!|
|What a relief to have him in a safe place!|
|Daddy playing a happy little song on his harmonica|
|Honey, I'm home!|
|Leonard and Shirley in their new home!|
We have been on a very long journey, but I am so very thankful to God for getting us all through it. I am so thankful that I still have my parents and that they will be living together again and that they are in a beautiful safe place and that person cannot hurt them financially again. I am also so very thankful for my dear sisters.
"Honor your father and your mother." Exodus 20:12
"I can do all things through Him who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13
"And God is able to make all grace abound to you, so that having all sufficiency in all things at all times, you may abound in every good work." II Corinthians 9:8
"Your steadfast love, Oh Lord, extends to the heavens, Your faithfulness reaches to the skies." Psalms 89:8