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and the day in, day out things that we do.
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Wednesday, April 17, 2013

I love our date nights!

I am so very thankful for my husband, Eric. 
 We have been married for over 30 years and if I do say so myself, we have a wonderful marriage. In all our years of marriage, we have always set aside time to go on dates and cultivate our relationship. Sometimes it was hard to get away when we had a house full of busy little boys, but we did find the time. Now that we are empty nesters, we can pretty much go out whenever we want, but I like the fact that we don't do it all the time so that it is still really special and fun for us.
The other night we had one of our fun little dates at the local Mexican restaurant. I appreciate and love my husband so much, he has been with me through thick and thin.
Lately our life has been thick.
We have been stressed because of my parents health and financial situation.
We also both have been very busy at our jobs.
He is a timber faller and self employed and lately the log market has been very good, which we are so very grateful for, but he's been working extra hard.
He has a crew of men that work for him and they have two units going right now. Eric has been having to work almost every Saturday to keep up.
At my job they are implementing a whole new computer system for registering and checking in patients and keeping the patient's electronic charts. I've been going to many training classes every week learning this new system.
On top of all of this, I am realizing that I'm still going through the empty nest transition and trying to figure out my new role.
 For years my title was wife and mother and I felt that my life had great purpose. It's been hard navigating this new role and finding my new purpose.
I thought that I had dealt with all of my empty nest issues last fall when our youngest went off to college and I thought I passed with flying colors.
In reality, I believe I dealt with some of it, but then I got so busy with his football season, working, doing some projects around our house and then preparing for the holidays.
When the quiet of January and February came around I started to notice that I'm not so busy with "mom" stuff and wondering what should I be doing with my extra time every evening and on my days off. These moments do pass and I am so very excited about our little grandbaby that's coming in October, but I just wanted you to know that these "empty-nest-who-am-I-now" emotions are an added element to my stressors at this time.
As I said before, we have both been busy and we're going through a lot right now, but I think the biggest stressor lately is the fact that my parents have had strokes and my sisters and I are so concerned about them.
We are praying that they get approval for assistance to help pay for a CNA to come in to their home or for them to go to an assisted living facility so that they will get the proper care that they need. If they do not get approved, my sister might continue to care for our mother and Eric and I have decided to have my father live here if it ends up being necessary. The latter would be our last choice in that our parents would be apart, and after 57 years of marriage, which would be devastating to them. On the other hand, it would be really fun for me to have my father here. The best situation we feel though, would be if they could stay in their home and we could have an aid come in to help them.
My two sisters and our husbands are all trying to help our parents. We love them and are looking out for their best interests.
It is so hard to feel completely responsible for a situation, but having absolutely no control. That's what we've been going through.
We all have a very strong faith and we know that God has some plan for all of this. Meanwhile, this situation is pretty much all I can think about and talk about. My stomach is in knots. 
We never know what life will bring us, but we know that the Lord is always with us. I'm so thankful for my rock of a husband. I'm so thankful that we can go out on dates and have a fun, romantic night but it's also so nice to be with my loving, supportive, wise, sensible, calm husband to talk things out. I am so very blessed with him.

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose." Romans 8:28

Hugs, Sharon

1 comment:

gin said...

So sorry Sharon about your parents and the decisions your family have to make. Praying for an easy transition into y'all's decisions. My father just died in December, he was 92 and perfect health until 3 days before his death with breathing problems . It took us completely by surprise. It has been hard. I will be patiently waiting to see y'all's progress. Wishing you all the best.

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