My father-in-law, Jim, has been her sole caretaker and he is getting very fatigued, and it's affecting his health now too. This has caused stress in their home and sadness too. The family decided, along with Alice too, that it's time for her to go to an assisted living facility. We have talked about having a caregiver come into the home, but sadly, their insurance does not cover this and truthfully, she really does need 24 hour care.
The good news is, Alice has a very good attitude about it and so does Jim. They both realize that this is truly the best answer.
Inside she simply wrote, "Your home always looks so charming. Alice" This meant so much to me. She has a hard time controlling her hands and writing and she actually wrote that sentiment with her own hand. I love what it says. I realize that when she went to town shopping with her friend, she took the time to pick out this sweet card just for me. It means a lot to me because I have always wanted her approval as a housewife and homemaker because she was so experienced and good at it. She actually has always complimented and encouraged me in this area, but to get this card just meant so much. It really, really touched me and I will treasure it always.
The prognosis for Alice is not good. When we think where she was a year ago, she has really gone down hill. We do not know what the future holds for her, but all I know is that I want to be there for her, love her and support her through this.
Can I ask you, my dear blogging friends, to please say a prayer for her that she will be happy and safe in her new home and the transition will go smoothly for her? Also, she did complain that there are no residents there that are mentally stimulating to her, but they have five empty rooms right now and I would like to pray that the Lord will bring her several new friends that are at the same or even better mental state that she is in so she will be inspired and encouraged.
"Every time I think of you, I give thanks to my God." Philippians 1:3
I just wanted to add these extra pictures. I went to visit Alice about a week later and it was really fun. She was doing awesome. Her attitude was great. When I popped in unexpected, she was stretched out in her lazy boy chair reading the newspaper and she looked up and said, "Sharon!" I was happy she knew me and she was happy to see me. It was really fun because I just went down to the kitchen and got us each a cup of coffee and we just sat there and visited and sipped our coffee. It was sad though because half way into our visit the nurse came to check on Alice and Alice tried to introduce us, but forgot who I was, or at least my name. I felt bad, but I realize it is just part of the disease.
It was doubly sweet because towards the end of my visit with Alice there was a knock at the door and it was my Aunt Josephine (my father's sister)! She had heard that Alice was in this new assisted living facility and she just wanted to stop by and say hello. She is an amazing woman! She's 83 and she's so active with bowling, church activities, and doing part time work and then she does sweet things like visiting shut ins like Alice. She was very talkative and sweet and she filled us in on her busy life. She said she just took a fresh lemon pie to a friend at a nearby facility and she also prepared a big beef stew for the homeless at a program through her church! I hope I will be strong and have energy like her when I'm 83 and I want to be a servant like she is! She brightened Alice's day and she said she would come back again.
I was encouraged to see that Alice is adjusting well. Thank you for your prayers.